Friday, March 19, 2010

What If I'm doing it Wrong...

So, I've started talking to this guy. Funny guy he is, and I really enjoy talking to him, but there are times (like right now) that I wonder if I'm doing it wrong. I know that probably sounds totally weird, but that's what's going through my mind. Right now I'm just trying to view it as a new friendship and nothing more, but I still worry that I'm going about it all wrong. It's been a long time since I've made "new" friends that I didn't see on a daily basis, let alone talk to on a daily basis. Don't get me wrong, I'm good at making friends and maintaining those friendships, but at the same time, most of those friendships don't consist of texts. There's actually one-on-one human time involved. So with this whole text thing, I worry... Am I asking too much? Am I not saying enough? Am I supposed to let him ask me questions or just offer up information about myself? Does it make me an absolutely absurd 24-year-old for not knowing the answer to these things? I feel like a child again...
I've made a promise to myself (and told a few important people in my life) that I'm not going to get ahead of myself on this one. I'm not going to get my hopes up. I'm gonna take it one day at a time and get to know him. Build a friendship, 'cuz honestly, I don't know if I'm ready for anything else right now in my life. With that said, I still don't want to run him off because I appear to be a babbling idiot that has no clue as to what she's doing....

2 comments:

Big Chaille Fish said...

Leah,
If you have brought this to God in pray and continue to do so, if something is suppose to happen and it be God's will you will not be able to screw it up : )

Now I know that is what everyone says but it is so true and until we (this includes me and every other single girl out there) realize and remember to put God first and allow him to be our all consuming one and only true love we will never be satisfied.

So I would say you are on the right track by taking it day by day and just getting to know him. If you ever wonder if you are over stepping you bounds I would keep it in the front of your mind to treat him like a brother in Christ and to always act in such a way that if your "future" spouse or his were watching your interaction or over hearing your conversation would they feel honored or jealous. This leaves no room for regret later on.

Hope this helps, I've been in that boat and if we try and do things on our own we fail. But with God it is good.

Leah Brianne said...

Thank you Chaille. I really appreciate your advice. =)