That's Just How It Is...

Before I get into this post, I just want to say that I don't question my decision, I'm just curious as to how the rest of you would have responded. I'd like to know if you agree with my stand or not.

So here goes:

Yesterday, I had been trying to get a hold of my friend (let's call her Jane) but for some reason, I wasn't getting a response. So, being the clever person I am, I decided I was going to text her boyfriend and see if her phone was dead or something. Like 5 minutes later, I got a phone call from her (go figure). Later that day her boyfriend (let's just call him Joe) texted me and below is how the convo went (the first two are from memory because I somehow deleted them):

Joe: What? You can only text me when you need to get ahold of Jane? I see how it is.

Me: Oh stop being a baby! lol. I'm just more comfortable texting Jane. I always feel weird when I text or call my friends' significant others.

(actual texts below)

J: hmmmm.. be that way.

M: fine. I will. =)

J: So that means we aren't friends so if we ever see eachother, don't look or talk to me, cause i'm just a significant other.

M: No. I didn't say that. I just feel weird when I have to call or text them. It's weird...I know, but that's just me. I love talkin to ya & whatnot when I see ya...I can't explain it. But way to go for making me feel bad. lol

J: And saying im not ur friend makes me feel good?? Fine, I can play woman games too.

M: I didn't say you weren't my friend!! You are...but let me ask you this...do you call or text your best friends gf randomly??

From there, he didn't really answer my question. He said something about he being his own best friend, so yes, because Jane was his "best friends" girl. And then I think he arrived at work, so I didn't hear back from him. This conversation, however, made me want to explain myself a little better, which is why I'm here.

First off, no, I don't randomly call or text my friends' boyfriends. Just like I don't go out of my way to call and text the male friends of mine that have girlfriends. I personally feel it's innappropriate. Why, you might ask? Because we girls are funny creatures and when we find out that our boyfriends are talking via phone with another girl (who happens to be single), some of us tend to get on the defensive and assume things. Granted, not all, but many, and I refuse put any of my friends in that sort of situation. Just because I won't text or call you like I do my other friends doesn't mean I'm not your friend. I'll talk to you, give you hard time, comment you on the oh-so-popular networking sites like I would any other friend, but I will NOT text or call you and I won't be alone with you in any situation. I've sat out in the car before, waiting for one of my girlfriends to get home, because I wasn't comfortable sitting in the house alone with her husband. I absolutely adore her husband. He's an incredible guy, loves her to death, and is a great friend all around, but I wasn't comfortable being alone in the house with just him. Call me weird, but that's just how I am. I know all of my friends trust me, and I know they trust their husband/boyfriends, but I still don't want to be in the sort of situation that would cause any doubt. As I stated earlier, it's not just with my girlfriends' boyfriends - it also includes my MALE friends that are in a relationship. I just dont' want to go there.

So now that I've given you a long-winded story... What's your opinion? Does it all make sense or am I just weird?

Me and my two closest friends (since 1st grade).